Life

Saturday, August 11, 2007

Was just listening to class 95's song, "stuck in the game of love"..began to agree how this applies to me. I wish i knew what love, human love is about. seem to be failing to comprehend its meaning and application each time. Maybe i've been wired not to know..or rather to recreate its meaning. Maybe i should consider it a blessing to be able to attend the P.I.CK training. My agency will be running the inaugaral round in october, supported by SDU to promote good relationships and marriages. P.I.C.K stands for pre marital interpersonal choices and knowledge. The sub heading is: How not to marry a Jerk/ Jerkette. The training produces impeccable value to me and to the rest too, i believe. The only thing that struck me: I dunno how i'll be able to survive any relationship if i were to follow the P.I.C.K program. Then again, at the end of the training, we were told that there can never be a perfect match but we must consider many things so that we know what we are compromising. " A good marriage is when two very different people come together and become a better person cos of the other person".

Some valuable points to take note of:
The relationship attachment model:
1)KNOW
2) TRUST
3)RELY
4)COMMIT
5) TOUCH

Any form of accelerated attachment (skipping the stages/ accelerating the stages above) in a dating relationship leads to poor choices and emotional baggage.

for point number 1) Things that you need to KNOW:
1) Family background
2) Attitude and actions of the conscience
3) Compatibility model
4)Examples of past relationships
5) Skills for communication

"No one tests the depth of the water with both feet, except people in love"

Tests for a trustworthy partner:
Maturity
Adaptibility
Relationship Skills
Responsible
Inner confidence
Anger management
Gracious
Emotional stability

That adds up to MARRIAGE.

Seriously, there are lots more to consider and its better to know than not to know and drown in the river if its too deep. The first run will b held on the first week of Oct. Will post up more details once its confirmed. Strongly encourage all to go.

Well, sometimes i feel that lots of things are out of our control and the only thing we can control is ourself- how we react, relate and cope to circumstances. I feel like i'm trying very hard to cope but still fall short. I hate crying but when i'm at bottleneck, sometimes, it just happens. sometimes i cant sleep, thinking too much. At the end of the day, i realise that i just cant do everything with my own human strength.I need divine intervention. Just cant do it myself anymore. I get so affected by people.. so many close friends going through rlxp issues and i know that i can tell them only that much, everything else is up to them.
Then again, i can only pray for you, dear friends.

A very fearful for the wisdom teeth surgery on Monday. All this while, i'm looking ahead at my 5 days MC thats subsiding my fear in a way. But what am i going to do for 5 days. I fear the dentist the most. God help me.